Someone
once said that it is a burden to feel things so deeply. I could Google it I guess.
I’m not in
a good way for the start of the year. They say that each pillar of your house needs
to be in order: loosely, family, friends, career, money, love. Each of those feels out of kilter. I just saw my doctor and she emphasised this.
I’m also
using again. Today I took maybe three Stilnox and 20mg of Valium, plus red wine. All to numb the pain.
It’s not
that I don’t want to be in Australia.
That’s just geography.
My family –
my biological family is far away – however close they are by phone.
My friends:
I have friends here in Sydney, but I can feel myself cocooning and that’s not
good. I need to spend the effort to see
them. I know it’s good medicine. They
bring me out of myself and make me feel better.
My career
is plateauing, maybe even stalling, because I can’t concentrate because of all
this stuff. Maybe I’m at the right place
for now, but I can’t help but to feel that if I were in-house again things
would be simpler. Maybe this should be a
goal for 2018?
Money is
always a problem. I live barely (not
barely) within my means. I spend money
when I want to, never really in a budget despite my best intentions.
Love: I
love B., but I don’t think that he’s the one. I think the fact that I loved him but was
never head over heels is a sign. And then there’s the elephant in the room – we
haven’t had sex for over 14 months. Is he
just my friend now? I feel co-dependent.
I’m so scared of losing him, but I feel that I could be a far, far better
friend to him, than I can be a lover (which I am not, by virtue (virtue?) of
the fact that we are not lovers. But I
love him so much. But I know it’s not in
the right way.
Last week I
saw Call Me By Your Name and now I’m reading the book. If I ask myself today,
have I met that one person who I achieved 100% intimacy with, for better or for
worse, then I think the answer is no.
And time is ticking by.
Tick-tock, tick-tock. I’m
45. I may feel 25, but I’m not.
I feel
close to closure, yet new beginnings. I
don’t know how to make that leap. Is it
as simple as just jumping from the edge (metaphorically speaking) and seeing
what else is out there for me?
I found it:
“It is both a blessing
And a curse
To feel everything
So very deeply.” – David Jones
And a curse
To feel everything
So very deeply.” – David Jones